Have you ever noticed that doing one particular thing will magically bring insights on another thing in life? I did. If you have read my previous blogs, you know that I have been busy with moving houses to Amsterdam. It was an intensive process requiring a lot of planning and effort. Miraculously, in this endeavour I have gained a deeper realisation of some main concepts in life.
You learn to see which people truly care about you
Moving housing, especially when there is a lot of work and renovation activities needed, involves significant amount of time and persistence. In this case, it is definitely not something that is easy and quickly done. People will be frightened / scared away by this. Only the ones who truly stay close to you and care about you, will stay and offer their helping hand. This was exactly what I have experienced. I can see clearer now who in my life are there to stay and worth to do everything to keep them in my life.
You learn to see which people truly care about you
Moving housing, especially when there is a lot of work and renovation activities needed, involves significant amount of time and persistence. For this reason, people will be less willing to help you with moving. Only the ones who truly stay close to you and care about you, will stay and offer their helping hand. This was exactly what I have experienced. In my case, a lot needed to be done to make our new apartment liveable. What I have noticed was that a lot of people who offered to help at first, have withdrawn their support eventually. Because of this, I can now see clearer who in my life are there to stay and worth for me to do everything for in keeping them in my life.
Change is something amazing
From an empty unfamiliar place to something that slowly gets more shape and feels like home. At first, it felt uncomfortable and strange as everything was not what I was used to. I really needed to push through the begin phase and embrace the uncertainty. Gradually as I was getting basic installations done (such as electricity, internet, lightning and essential house appliances), it has given me more peace in my mind. More importantly, at the same time I started to notice and believe in the magic of change. I reached the point at which I did not feel unease with change, rather I started to enjoy it to the maximum and became addicted to it.
Your patience is tested
It was a hell of an effort. A little less patience would have brought me further away from home literally and figuratively. Moving houses is everything but a quick process. Unexpected and unplanned tasks came in a sequence my way. This included shortages in the apartment coming to light which I needed to fix. This all has required my understanding and patience to deal with them. Luckily, I have made a planning with as many foreseeable tasks to be done as possible. That has helped me to still get a grip on the moving process and all the things involved in it which, in turn, supported my level of patience. Good things take time slowly but steadily.
See where your limits are and how far you can go
The actual process of moving houses deviated a lot from what was planned. A great part of the game is to improvise and act according to what was asked from me at the moving house moments. This way, I was really being put on self-discovery where my boundaries were put on test. I was mainly exploring how far I could go to take the extra mile, to still persist in making things work in our apartment even if all other things seemed to work against me. These included a breakdown of the light circuit when installing the light system and the difficulty of drilling a hole in the concrete ceiling. As most events were unpredictable, I was constantly being put on experiment in terms of how to deal with them and how far I should push myself in exceeding my own boundaries & capabilities to attain this.
Trained to think logically
When things did not go according to plan in my journey to make my new house my new home, I had the strong tendency to think more complicated. That actually did not bring me anywhere. The more complex the issues became in my mind, the more difficult it was for me to solve. Using my common sense and thinking in simple terms are the magical words. When facing an issue, such as the breakdown of the light circuit when installing the light system, I broke the problem down in pieces to find its root cause. Was it because of wrong installation, wrong light fitting or loosening of the cables? By investigating this one by one and trying to connect the dots by logical thinking, I eventually managed to bring to light the root cause. This example was just one of the many issues I came across in the moving house process. So the essence is to always use your rational mind and ask the right questions along the way. It has stimulated me to think logically than ever before.
Does the above sound familiar to you? Have you also felt that doing one thing enhances your skill or capability of doing another thing? Please let me know in the comments below.
Until next time!